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I had my first child at 49 years old. He’s the best thing that ever happened to me. This blog is my attempt to help other dads see what might be coming next. To help me, and other dads, please comment on blog posts so we can all learn together. My son will be 5 years old this year and I’ve been posting here ever since we learned we were having a baby. So even if your wife is just now pregnant, reach back into the archives and see what we went through and what I learned along the way. Cheers!

DAD, ONE DAY I WILL WALK ON THE CLOUDS

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“Dad, one day I’ll be able to walk on the clouds.” Conor said matter-of-factly as we drove home from school today. Oh boy, another talk about death. I guess I’d better just take the bait and see where the conversation goes. “Conor, when will you be able to walk on the clouds?” “A long, long, long, long, looonnng time from now….when I’m a grown up,” he said. “A grown-up?” I said surprised. “Yeah, when I get older I’m going to have a jetpack and I can fly up to the clouds and I’m going to walk on them.” “Can I come, too?” I asked. “Sure, if you’re still alive.”
I turned up the radio. Not sure I wanted to hear any more of the little rat’s stories on the drive home.


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HOW TO KEEP YOUR BABY FROM CRYING ALL NIGHT



As if 9 months of pregnancy isn't enough of a challenge, bringing the baby home from the hospital and having it cry incessantly just doesn't seem fair. Some babies will cry for hours a day when they come home from the hospital for the first 3 months until the crying one day magically disappears. And many a doctor will say there's nothing wrong with the baby. It's just colicky. They tell you to just ignore the baby and they'll cry themselves to sleep. According to Dr. Karp, an amazing pediatrician and author of "Happiest Baby on the Block", this is an outdated way of thinking. After researching baby culture around the world, he notices that some cultures don't even have colicky babies. So he began to discover why. And what could we learn so that our own babies don't cry for the first three months out of the womb. READ MORE...

WHEN CAN YOUR CHILD START MUSIC LESSONS?


Below the age of 3, most kids' hands are too small to play the piano and the brain and body may not have developed enough to understand the concepts of music.
Between the ages of four and twelve, children have an excellent ability to learn musical education. Especially if they've been listening to appropriate music up to now. Their minds are malleable and they have an extraordinary ability to understand the piano. Even learning to read music is easy. In fact, musical notation is easier to learn than any alphabet. Often, the ability to learn is only limited by the teacher's talents, not the child's.
Between the ages of 13 and 19 is also a great time to learn and can still create concert level pianists. The brain is still progressing greatly until the age of 16, where it begins to slow down slightly at 19. After this age, it will be more difficult to memorize and play and informal performances will be the best that most can hope for. FULL STORY...

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THIS WEEK -“DUCK FEET” BY THEO LESEIG

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Many research studies show that boys learn to read at a slower pace than girls because they don't have male figures in their lives that read. So I've decided to ask men to read outloud to kids so that boys can see that it's cool to read.
VISIT THE READING ROOM...